So I usually avoid commenting on current events, and maybe everyone's tired of this by now but all the hoopla about Petraeus just leaves me saying what the fuck??? He's a MAN!!! MEN CHEAT!!! So do WOMEN!!! OK. Enough with the exclamation points. I was bouncing around Blogland and came upon Mama D who had something to say about it. She's not alone in her opinion. Why is it that people expect men who are in positions of power to have more "moral fortitude" than men who are let's say... laborers? Or teachers, or doctors, or drug dealers, or garbage picker uppers? It seems to me that Powerful Men might be even more likely to stray, because as you know, it's all about the woolly mammoth. Not that Powerful Men are more vain, more selfish, or more likely to believe the rules do not apply, but if a man has the genetic make-up to become King of the World, wouldn't nature and evolution want that DNA to carry on? Survival of the Fittest and all that stuff? And women are attracted to power. It's just the way it is. It makes for stronger babies and more security and more woolly mammoth steaks and woolly mammoth blankets. Over at Denise in Margaritaville it's all about hormone induced fidelity today. The only thing oxytocin ever did for me was make my milk let down and my uterus contract. Which I guess are both things that would immediately deter me from having sex with other men. I'm thinking there are as many explanations for infidelity as there are colors in the big crayola box. And we are all assholes at least once in our lives. Humans have assholes. We also have whole souls that can manifest devotion, honesty, loyalty, respect, and love. This Huffington Post piece makes the most sense to me. I don't feel outrage on behalf of Mrs Petraeus. I can't claim to be glad or relieved that she's "furious" rather than stoically standing by her man. That shit is between the two of them. To quote my brother-in-law, no one on the outside can ever really know what holds a marriage together or breaks it apart. I think it's fucked up that the guy had to resign over it. Who I have sex with has absolutely no bearing on how I do my job. Just sayin' And my guess is Mrs. Petraeus will remain Mrs. Petraeus. I could be wrong.
"it occurred to me that the only real sin you can commit as a mother is to deny your children's right to be who they are and what they want to be and that the only real sin you can commit against yourself is to deny who you truly are and prevent yourself from being who that is"